Healing requires the journey-shortcuts rob it of its depth and meaning
Hello, and thank you for visiting my site and taking an interest in my work. My name is Lewis Logan, and I am a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and Sports and Remedial Massage Therapist working in Bridport, Dorset.
My own story and experiences have shown me the challenges men face, and this fuels my passion for men’s work. Yet that passion is part of a wider mission: to support people from all walks of life. My door is open to anyone ready to break free from old patterns of stress, trauma, and overwhelm, and to find lasting freedom through body-based healing built on safety, capacity and purpose.
Like many, I grew up largely fatherless. From the age of eight, I had no one to show me how to be a man and no model of what being a good father looked like. It has taken time to come to terms with the fact that this absence shaped many of my life’s challenges and inevitable decisions. Then, in 2024, not long after discovering I would become a father myself, my own father passed away.
These and other events left me unable to feel or express my anger, carrying pain that surfaced in musculoskeletal issues, and a sadness I tried to numb with unhealthy choices.
It is said that the masculine provides the push, the encouragement, the resilience, the courage, and the decision-making. I came to understand that the absence of the masculine in my life as a young man led to a significant loss of purpose, ambition, and direction. This realisation became the foundation of my own work and growth, and it now fuels the work I offer others.
For many years, I believed it would be best if I never became a father — a decision made naively in an attempt to end the cycle of pain and suffering that had haunted my family for generations. If hurt people hurt, then this was likely a long history of pain passed down. I thought ending the line would end the pain.
But life had other plans. Around 2012, I had an experience that changed everything. In the years since, I’ve come to understand that it fundamentally rewired me. Since that day, I have made healthier choices that were previously unavailable. I began to ask questions that shaped the path to where I am now:
Could I end the pattern of pain?
Could I become the father I never had?
Could I be the link that breaks the chain?
Once you wake up to the destructive patterns of your life, you are already on a path to healing.
I felt like I had just woken up, and nothing could stop the momentum that I still feel to this day. From these small ideas grew a whole new world of possibility. From there, I ushered in a new version of myself, constantly evolving and self-reflecting. I began to listen to and follow my intuition. I made better choices and began to feel more love than I ever thought possible. I learned about intergenerational trauma and terms like reparenting, self-actualisation, and regulation. I learned the importance of self-care, healthy boundaries, and expressing my feelings. I found ways to uncover hidden feelings and emotions I had never expressed through Somatic Experiencing, and I found relief from physical pain that I thought I would carry all my life.
Make no mistake: I have stumbled many times along the way, and this journey has not been graceful. But here I am now a little wiser, a little more whole, and a whole lot more loving and caring. I have found safety in the world around me, but also within myself. I have grown my capacity to handle life’s challenges and my own thoughts and feelings, and all this has allowed me the ability to find purpose in my day-to-day life.
Purpose doesn’t have to be a big “P,” life-affirming purpose; even a daily self-care routine is purpose. Small “p.”
Reflecting on all I have experienced, I have come to realise that the journey was a vital component of my healing. Perhaps I could have sought quick fixes, but I believe these would have only masked the true pain underneath. I was a man in a boat at sea, and I knew ahead of me was a storm. I could have chosen to turn my boat around at any point and head back to shore, but instead, I pulled down my sails, battened down the hatches, and got comfortable. That’s the real magic: getting comfortable in the uncomfortable; being okay with not being okay.
As my understanding of myself grows, the area in which I was so wounded has become the North Star for my work: fatherless men, men like myself who cannot find safety, the capacity to handle challenge, or the purpose they need in life. My purpose is to help others realise the importance of the journey, to know that they are not alone in that boat. Although we can’t simply end the storm, we can be a lighthouse to guide you; we can ride the waves, and we can see you safely to the other side.
Join me in rewriting the narrative, as we transform pain into purpose. Discover what it means to find safety in yourself, grow your capacity to handle challenges, and even find your own purpose. Whether by working with me one-on-one, exploring the workshops I offer, engaging in a dialogue about your own experiences, or simply reaching out to share your story, together we can be the link that breaks the chain.
